We did some temperament test this week in Care Group and I'm a Phlegmatic Sanguine. I think that's quite true or maybe exactly true. And sometimes I just find it quite suffering to have such personality. Nope, not blaming genes or traits or watever but its just ya no, it can be very tiring.
I find this descriptions of a phlegmatic sanguine very applicable to who am I. I just highlighted some points that are in fact true to me.
The Phlegmatic / Sanguine
If you are a phlegmatic-sanguine, your phlegmatic side will dominate. This will result in a greater tendency to introversion (though still less than a melancholic’s or pure phlegmatic’s). You are congenial and cooperative and get along well with most everyone. Because of your emphasis on harmony in relationships, you are peace-loving (yeap so in the end I always swallow it all back and smile =) and take it like ntg happens) , conservative, well-balanced, easy-going, with a dry wit and a talent for bringing people together. As an employee, you are compliant (it can be but not too extreme aha) , dutiful , orderly (sometimes =b), and subdued (and probably were as a child too).
Others may not realize that you have a sanguine side -- at first. It may take a little longer for you to make close friends (because you do not reveal your feelings or thoughts as readily as the more extraverted sanguine-phlegmatic), but once you do, your sanguine nature can assert itself. It will also show up when, for example, you have been so dutiful and compliant about work or school that finally you need to relax and unwind — and now the sanguine, fun-loving side comes out. Or, when you are hanging out with your closest friends. (haha. this is so true =D I used to say I only go hoo-ha with the people I'm really close with)
You are very thoughtful of others, with a knack for empathically putting yourself in other people’s shoes, and value peace and harmony at all times. You also have a great sense of humor and an easy-going manner that makes you a valued friend. You are discouraged by criticism or negativity and need acceptance, support and cooperation in your personal life. You can be deeply wounded by sarcasm, harsh criticism, and anger when it is directed at you. You will not, however, directly fight back but prefer to “turn the other cheek” or redouble your efforts to please. (this is what I was mentioning earlier on. yes, I'm quite a sensitive person. I can go on all day thinking of just one sentence u said tht strikes me but for good la. aha. And yeah, I can get all fused up and yet I don't show my anger but rather try to please the other party like there's ntg wrong. It can be bad thats y I hate myself for being tht way >.<)
Phlegmatic-sanguines tend to prefer movies, concerts, or other forms of relaxation that are a bit more spectator-oriented. When they attend parties, they tend to prefer smaller groups, rather than the large social gatherings a pure sanguine enjoys. Like sanguine-phlegmatics, they are very attentive to relationships, to harmony among people. They have deep feelings, hate negative criticism, and become discouraged by negativity in those around them. They are strongly tempted to repress their own wishes in order to preserve peace in a relationship (always. hmm..). A stressful situation (especially one that is interpersonally demanding) may cause the peaceful phlegmatic-sanguine to withdraw into solitary television watching, playing computer games, eating or sleeping, instead of directly expressing their negative feelings. (yeap, I'll give myself a time-out. I don't usually tell any1 how I feel. maybe God yea. but I always love to be just a listener =) )
A danger for the phlegmatic-sanguine is to be satisfied with achieving less than what he is capable of -- whether because he tends not to plan for the future or because the more challenging goals seem to be “too much trouble.” (I'll say this particular part is not that right cos I am quite an ambitious person. eheh Sometimes I think I pushed myself too hard in achieving) A phlegmatic-sanguine will be strongly tempted to quit if he doesn’t think the end product is worth the effort or if he fears he won’t succeed. Perhaps the most besetting difficulties for this temperament mixture are the natural inclination to peace and quiet (tempting one to laziness), a preference to live within the moment (superficiality), and a tendency to make decisions based first on the desire to please someone else or to restore harmony. (it's just smtg natural. call this gene maybe from daddy. =b )
In a relationship, the phlegmatic-sanguine is true-blue. He is likely to be a great listener, is willing to put others first, and has excellent mediatory skills. You are a supportive friend and a cooperative employee; however, this can cause you to say “yes” to demands of friends or colleagues, without first analyzing whether this choice is actually the best choice to make. (hmm.. which already happened lol. I need to learn to say "no" sometimes but just duno how) At times, wanting to either please your good friends or avoid conflict either at home or at work, you may “go with the flow” (this too. I usually just say go with the flow la and see how. ahah ) when in fact a strong stance is necessary. Or, you may avoid a more demanding task or career move in order to maintain harmony and stability. If you find yourself “stuck in a rut” or avoiding making the extra effort required to make an important change, take time out to analyze your goals for the future, realign your priorities to reflect your values and, if necessary, seek spiritual direction to ensure that your values are aligned with God’s will for you.
Anyway, last week had been a long, dreaded, tiring week for me. It's not just about events and assignments to be done but along the way, I just felt confused by everything. A lot of stuff were cluttered in my mind and I'm almost lost in the middle but thank God I managed to seal it all back. Am worried about mum as well. She was supposed to go for an operation but delayed it after my bro's SPM. I'm just worried if it can be delayed at all.
And to some of you thanx a bunch for being there for me when I actually almost fall apart. =)
